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  • Writer's pictureJoan M Sotelo LMFT, LPC

What Is Happening With My Relationship!?

So, your relationship is not doing well... Maybe you feel stuck in between frequent arguing or not talking at all, and you’re thinking, “is our relationship tearing apart? Are we just not compatible? I don’t feel like we’re in love anymore... what does that mean”?

It’s ok! So many couples go though this same thing and the good news is.... there is a way out! Today’s day in age it is disheartening to look at the statistics; about 50% of marriages end up in divorce! Wow, that’s scary. But, that doesn’t have to be your story.

Most relationships fail because of a lack of good communication. Communication is the foundation of your marriage, and if the foundation has cracks .... well the house is not going to withstand the test of time. The problem is that people notice the cracks in the walls of their house and try to cover them up so that they don’t look bad. We cover up our relationship problems with numbing our to TV, video games, drinking, spending more time at work, focusing on the children, or hanging out with “friends” that become confidants and can lead to .... an affair. We need to go back to working on what is truly the problem... the communication.

“But wait, isn’t it normal to fight and argue? Isn’t that healthy”?

Disagreeing is different than fighting. Communicating and discussing issues does not have to lead to arguing. Fights lead to a lack of unity in the relationship and we end up feeling upset, hurt, and alone.

That’s what therapy can help with. It is a neutral and safe space where we learn to discuss differences without arguing, solve issues together, and communicate at a deeper lever where we feel understood and loved.

When we can speak more openly and vulnerably with our partners we can start to truly heal and build the relationship that will withstand the test of time, regardless of the obstacles that come along the way.

Are you ready to try counseling?

Call and see if it may be helpful for you and your partner: 832-380-5851


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